Plug for sure 😝
Oh gosh… that’s not a fair choice
It depends on the situation!
But if I haaaad to choose I’d say diaper 😳
Uhmmmm idk. Hi? I’m not used to people having crushes on me ☺️
Absolutely :D
I’ve met some at events and pride and such.
Sorry! its not intentional. I try to check it once in awhile but it gets overwhelming sometimes -_-
Completely different.
I like the fullness of being fisted.
The pain is just something you just work through :)
Haha thats kind of funny. I suppose there’s a trend that ‘kink’ is getting destigmatized. Its difficult to answer because its such a multi-faceted issue that you bring up.
First and foremost, I think what we’re dealing with as far as ‘popularity’ is something of a double edged sword. In its basest quality, kink (or fetish) is something that is merely meant to bring you pleasure. The ‘what’ is easy. But to dig deeper into the ‘why’ and the ‘how’ is where I think we run into trouble. There is a dynamic that has to be understood before it can be practiced well. Not just anyone with a whip in their hands can understand the line. Things like 50 Shades I think hurt our community in ‘mainstreaming’ it. Not because I want to feel like I’m special, but because I want people to understand it. And that intellectual pursuit is something that, honestly, I don’t trust the general public to participate in.
Secondly, I think its more that the kink world is being opened up to younger and younger people now. In the past, the ‘sexual revolution’ didn’t happen until later in life (due to less exposure, societal taboos, etc). Often I’m met with surprise when older guys in the kink community realize my experience. With homosexuality itself being more accepted by society, we find ourselves in a place where access to sex and all of the activities therein is much more readily available. When that happens, people begin to explore and understand the things outside of the ‘vanilla’ of penetrative intercourse. Also, obviously, the internet. (Tumblr especially…)
Thirdly, The struggle with that is that submissives, by nature, are those who seek to be controlled and seek to find people who know more than they do. Many of the Doms I know were once subs themselves. But to be a Dom when you’re younger takes a lot of courage and a very innate connection to being more in a caretaker or mature role. Naturally, the kink scene that we are exposed to is going to be at least somewhat more reliant on the people we are attracted to.
Its frustrating, yes. Its difficult to find someone who is younger and attractive who also has the mindset and experience to create a true submissive headspace. To learn to Dominate is to learn to understand the submissive. And many do that through the experience of BEING the submissive. Understand here that I’m not saying that the submissive headspace is easy. Its not, by any means. But there is a physically active and decisive quality that needs to exist for a Dom to be successful.
To be as clear as possible: No, I don’t think there are ‘too many subs’. I think there are too few Doms.
I can say with certainty that finding someone for myself and for Noah and I has been something of a struggle because of that. We’re put in the position to learn to be Dominant because we love each other. And thats okay. But at a certain point it does feel a bit sacrificial.
But, and heres the really important thing: be true to yourself. Don’t feel like you’re required to be submissive because you’re younger, but also don’t feel like you’re obligated to be Dominant because there are fewer of them. Do what feels right and best for you. Explore all facets of the world. Find people you connect with. Whatever your kink, whatever your fetish, don’t be afraid. Have fun. Be brave and bold and push yourself outside of that comfort zone. You’ll be surprised at what you can find.
Dear anon (you and in general):
There is a clear difference between questions asked out of curiosity and questions asked out of spite, rudeness or an attempt to attack me. Whoever you are, you’re more than welcome approach me and have a real conversation. Otherwise you’re just wasting your time.
Thanks!
Well, a) playing is not something we ever really wanted to do together and
b) he kinda lives half way across the country from me now.
He has his fuck toy lol
Sorry to disappoint ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
No siree. Negative and tested regularly 😄
wrestle me until we start making out
Lol there’s plenty of pics of it
We haven’t had a good chance to sit down and make it happen yet :/ he’s traveling this weekend, so hopefully next weekend :)
Thanks for being patient ❤️❤️
Hmmm I get your point and such plugs can be used in a sexual way indeed, but I don’t wear that tail plug because it’s stimulating or arousing having a plug up my ass… I wear my tail because I think it’s super cute, it completes my Nobley look and helps me to get in a waggy puppy mood.
If I were to wear mine for sexual reasons I would’ve bought an XL and never stop wagging *grin*
Awwhh 😳
Yes pwease ❤️❤️
Nope! Little space is primarily non-sexual for me. It’s still very submissive but in a more affectionate safe place than my pup headspace.
Of course :)
@bondage-slave-boy was here for 2 weeks and @pup-heaven is always here.
My butt is rarely lonely.
Oh? How do you know that
Much, much different question :p
I realized very young, around 7 or 8.
When did you decide to be ignorant?
GOOD LUBE! Most people try to start off with some like thin little water based lube. You’ll just end up hurting yourself. Most people at least have Crisco around the house. There are a LOT of differing opinions on it, but J-lube is my choice. It’s cheap and I mix it thick to create a nice comfortable layer.
Don’t go too fast. I know you want it and you want to make it happen, but slow, patient work is the best way to make it happen WELL.
But also don’t get frustrated with yourself if it doesn’t happen. Maybe it’ll take a couple tries, maybe 10. There are still times when my butt is like NOPE. It happens to everyone. Let yourself relax into it.
Headspace is like 90% of the battle. If you’re tense or nervous, so are your muscles. Create a comfortable environment. Take your time. Play with someone with whom you’ve built trust.
Poppers are a big help, but first and foremost remember to breathe. Feel your muscles relax and focus on the breath flowing in and out of your body.
Communicate consistently. If something is uncomfortable, tell your top. There will be some pain/discomfort, but if something is too much don’t force yourself to fight through it. Pull back a little and ease into it.
DONT PLAY WITH YOUR DICK! What you don’t realize is that when you stimulate that part, it contracts muscles in your ass. I know it’s tempting, but it’s counter productive if you want to work on getting fisted. Wear a jock or something covering it if you’re too tempted.As scary as this may sound, a little bit of blood is normal. Often times it will mix with the lube and seem like a LOT more than it actually is. Pink is okay. But that being said, be careful. Trust your body.
I’ll be doing a few videos on it here pretty soon, but that’s a good start. Hope this helps!!
Oh lord I am NOT.
I can think of tons cuter than me 😂😂😂