pupyeahyeah-deactivated20181206
asked:
How do you juggle your kink life with your normal life? Do you worry about work or family finding out? After getting into kink, I feel like I'm back in the closet. I finally managed to get the courage to play with some other pups at NYC-PAH and I had a great time, but that doesn't stop me from being nervous about pictures being taken or being scared that someone from work might see me.

Honestly? I stopped caring. The stigma of “alternative lifestyle choices” is absolutely ridiculous. Everyone has kinks. Everyone. We live in a society where openness and acceptance is preached, but this idea that anything but functionally procreative sex is taboo is a construct that can ONLY be destroyed by those of us who stop hiding. It’s not that I openly TELL those who are around me, I simply live my life in a way that makes me happy. My job cannot fire me for it. If friends leave me for it it is simply because they do not care enough about me to see me happy.
The parallels to the idea of being in the closet are honestly scary.
I don’t suggest being reckless by any means. And I am more comfortably open about it than most, I will admit. But take your own life into your hands, live in a way that makes you happy, and you will start to see yourself surrounded by people who support you for exactly who you are.