Posted on February 4, 2016
I love your guys' blog but I'm a little confused... Are you (Colin) the pup in the relationship or are both of you pups? Because if Noah's the dom can he be submissive too? I'm very new to the whole dom/pup scene and I'm just used to seeing a "dom" always be a dom and never be submissive so maybe you can fill me in as to how the dynamic works between you two. I would really appreciate it. Thanx!
That’s the beautiful thing about dynamics: they’re dynamic. It’s a misconception about the idea of Dominant/submissive relationships, be it pups or otherwise… There is no prescribed method or mold to stick to.
We are both pups, yes. But our relationship is defined by much more than that. I am more submissive in general, and so he has stepped into a more frequently Dominant role. But just as he does that for me, I can find Dominant places in myself as well.
He’s still learning. My experience can only reach so much. So it’s a constant growth for both of us; in our own headspaces and in how we interact with eachother.
We do what makes us happy. We do what gives us the best chance to be happy together. Whatever that means in a particular moment, we figure it out together.
That’s what this entire world is about. You may be on a different place in your journey. You may have something more static and that’s totally okay. You may not know what you want, and that’s okay too.
No one should ever tell you what you have to know or feel. Find someone who makes you happy. Nothing more, nothing less.