Posted on September 21, 2016
What advice do you have for someone that REALLY wants to fit fisted for the first time?
GOOD LUBE! Most people try to start off with some like thin little water based lube. You’ll just end up hurting yourself. Most people at least have Crisco around the house. There are a LOT of differing opinions on it, but J-lube is my choice. It’s cheap and I mix it thick to create a nice comfortable layer.
Don’t go too fast. I know you want it and you want to make it happen, but slow, patient work is the best way to make it happen WELL.
But also don’t get frustrated with yourself if it doesn’t happen. Maybe it’ll take a couple tries, maybe 10. There are still times when my butt is like NOPE. It happens to everyone. Let yourself relax into it.
Headspace is like 90% of the battle. If you’re tense or nervous, so are your muscles. Create a comfortable environment. Take your time. Play with someone with whom you’ve built trust.
Poppers are a big help, but first and foremost remember to breathe. Feel your muscles relax and focus on the breath flowing in and out of your body.
Communicate consistently. If something is uncomfortable, tell your top. There will be some pain/discomfort, but if something is too much don’t force yourself to fight through it. Pull back a little and ease into it.
DONT PLAY WITH YOUR DICK! What you don’t realize is that when you stimulate that part, it contracts muscles in your ass. I know it’s tempting, but it’s counter productive if you want to work on getting fisted. Wear a jock or something covering it if you’re too tempted.As scary as this may sound, a little bit of blood is normal. Often times it will mix with the lube and seem like a LOT more than it actually is. Pink is okay. But that being said, be careful. Trust your body.
I’ll be doing a few videos on it here pretty soon, but that’s a good start. Hope this helps!!