Posted on December 20, 2016
You and your BF are so ridiculously attractive! If you don't mind a novice asking, what exactly is it you enjoy about pup play? I wasn't really as aware of it until recently when a guy I went out with talked about it and it seems very intimate and fun! What would you say to someone who is interested but not knowledgeable when exploring it?
Aw thank you!!
As far as what we enjoy about pup play.. that’s a fairly open ended question but I’ll do my best haha.
Really I think the biggest draw is that it is an outlet for a submissive space that allows for an innate affectionate and care dynamic. He and I exist, first and foremost, on a romantic level. From there, it lets us learn and explore and be playful and enjoy the freedom that we find in a pup headspace (as well as the occasional whimper 😏). Learning about someone on such a deep level takes time and patience and a true connection. Sharing that space together is a catalyst for that learning and the way we feel about each other.
Obviously that’s a bit more of an emotional response. If you’re looking for something more physical, I’d say that I enjoy the primal nature of it. The submissive space for me thrives in being able to let go and focus on pleasing someone. There’s an indescribable feeling when you look up and see smiling and proud eyes of someone who controls you. The desire to please, the desire to see them happy; it opens up an entirely new world of activity and trust that may not exist in a less comfortable connection. And knowing they feel the same when they look and see your eyes in the same way.
As far as a advice for a new pup or those wanting to explore more, there’s a lot to say certainly. Reach out to people in the community; find people around you, go to events, etc. Even if you don’t feel comfortable “being” in that space, you can be around people that are. That, more than anything else, was a big motivator for me in finding my place. It’s a constant journey but learning I could love myself in seeing others do and be the same was invaluable.
Understanding there are people that don’t have access to that or don’t feel comfortable in reaching out or jumping into a social setting for whatever reason it may be, then just give yourself some time. Close your eyes and feel what it’s like to let go of the burden of existential thought. Be playful. Jump around your bed. Wag your butt. Chew on a sock. Before you know it you’ll find yourself smiling at the freedom of it all. And that’s just the beginning!